Marty Cowan, of Fulton, Maryland, describes her son Clayton’s transplant in a way that one does not often hear:
“Nobody wants this for their child, but I am so thankful for all of it,” said Marty. “It has shaped me into a better person. I had more life lessons thrown at me than ever before, and those are always a gift.”
Indeed, their family’s transplant story is unusually positive and upbeat, and a lot of reasons for that can be traced back to Marty herself. A practicing vegan and yoga enthusiast, Marty even successfully completed a yoga training course during her son’s transplant, earning her certification to become a yoga instructor.
“I knew it was going to be hard, and I knew that yoga was a huge part of my life,” said Marty. “I had a sense that it would benefit me in terms of how I could care for myself and my son during this process.”
Marty said the practice of yoga enabled her to find joy in the moment, no matter what it was.
“During transplant, no one takes care of the parents, and we have to find a way to take care of ourselves,” said Marty. “I would do yoga in Clayton’s hospital room, and I would grab the other moms whose children were undergoing transplants, and we’d do yoga in the hallways.”
If Marty sounds like she was mentally prepared for her son’s bone marrow transplant, it is because she was. She and her husband, John, had had 10 years to get ready.
It all began when Clayton was two and a half, and he developed a prolonged fever that ran as high as 103 and 104 degrees.
When he wasn’t responding to standard treatment, his pediatrician recommended taking Clayton to their local hospital. However, the doctors there could not determine what was wrong either. Meanwhile, Clayton’s health was rapidly declining. Trying not to panic, Marty and her husband rushed him to Johns Hopkins Children’s Center, where a lung biopsy found that Burkholderia cepacia, a type of bacteria that patients with Chronic Granulomatous Disease (CGD) cannot fight, had invaded his entire respiratory system.
Clayton was diagnosed with CGD, and Marty describes a harrowing period where doctors at Johns Hopkins spent three weeks trying to find the right medicines to treat him.
In less than 10 years later, Clayton, at age 12, was again admitted to Johns Hopkins Children’s Center for his bone marrow transplant in May 2015, and he was discharged in mid-July, said Marty.
Thankfully, Marty’s younger son, Graham, age 10, was a 9 out of 10 match for Clayton, and he generously offered to donate his bone marrow to his big brother. As a result of Graham’s marrow, Clayton did well throughout the process.
While there were days that Marty describes as “just awful,” she was grateful for the tireless team of transplant nurses who kept her spirits up, reminding her that each “bad day” was bringing her closer to the good days. Sure enough, Clayton got better each day. Eventually he was discharged, and after spending several weeks in an apartment they rented by the hospital, he was able to return home in August.
Clayton has been home-schooled since September, and he is looking forward to going back to his regular school in late January. He may even start playing baseball, his favorite sport, in the spring for a recreational league. Marty said it depends on his energy levels, which are understandably, much lower than his pre-transplant days. Either way, he’ll definitely be watching the Baltimore Orioles play. He’s their biggest fan.
“One thing I’ve learned throughout this process is that his timeline is his timeline,” said Marty, confidently. “Clayton’s symptoms will be over when it’s time for them to be over.”
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